In this Listener Question episode of Happier at Work, Aoife O’Brien responds to a question many leaders wrestle with:
How do you know when a workplace is toxic — and when it’s time to leave rather than trying to fix it?
Following this week’s solo episode on how toxic workplaces are created, this conversation focuses on the personal decision leaders face when they’re inside one.
This episode isn’t about resilience or coping strategies. It’s about judgement.
Aoife explores why leaders often stay longer than others in unhealthy environments, the hidden cost of trying to “hold things together,” and how to tell the difference between a tough phase and a culture that’s unlikely to change.
You’ll hear:
- Why toxicity shows up in patterns, not isolated moments
- The unique pressure leaders feel to fix dysfunctional systems
- Three signals that staying may be costing more than it’s giving
- How values erosion and shrinking influence show up over time
- Why leaving can be an act of clarity, not failure
Aoife also shares reflective questions to help you think through your own situation — without rushing to drastic decisions or defaulting to endurance.
If you’re a leader who feels responsible for your team but increasingly disconnected from your environment, this episode will help you pause, assess, and trust your judgement.
Reflective questions from the episode
- What behaviours have I normalised that I once found unacceptable?
- Where am I spending more energy protecting myself or others than doing my best work?
- If nothing changed over the next year, what would the cost be to my health, values, and leadership identity?
Listener Question
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